Time For A Millennial To Speak For Millennials

Time For A Millennial To Speak For Millennials

Apr 2, 2012

 
 
Over the past few months I have closely followed the crowd as they speak about “The Millennial” as it relates to life, work, and social skills.

Article after article riddled with opinions, stereotypes, and generalizations about an entire generation that does little more than magnify the shortcomings and belittle the contribution that the next generation brings to society.

What are these supposed shortcomings? Well I’ve noted many but the general consensus are the following…I’ll entitle them “The Myths”

Myth 1: We’re Entitled – We believe that the world should be handed to us. For instance a college degree means we should be given a key to the executive offices

Myth 2: We’re Self Centered – We don’t see beyond ourselves. In short, that the world orbits around us rather than the sun.

Myth 3: We’re Lazy - We aren’t willing to get our hands dirty. The boomers worked hard for their success and the millennials think it should be ours because we showed up.

Myth 4: We’re Fragile - We can’t take criticism. Further, we require constant ego stroking.

Myth 5: We’re Never Leaving Home - We don’t have the will or drive to go out on our own. If our parents allowed it we would never move fly from the nest.

Well I’ve read and I’ve listened. Now, I have decided it is time to speak up, to enlighten on where this all comes from and then present the truth at least as it is seen in the eyes of this millennial.

Ironically the content isn’t coming from millennials but rather from a rash of Gen X and Baby Boomers who are filling up the interwebs and making their living off of teaching, preaching, and misguiding business after business about the wants and needs of millennials.

I suppose that opinions of all shapes and sizes are welcome to any debate so I’m not suggesting that the older generations don’t continue to write about the millennial. I am however putting it out there that it is time for more millennials to speak up about the contributions that we are making and how we are shaping the future.

If for nothing else to refute the mass (inaccurate) communications that are being delivered on our behalf.

While some of the things that the experts say may be true within the constraints of the research, What is also true is that Millennials are next. It is this misunderstood, overgeneralized generation that will lead the evolution, revolution, and transformation of our world.

And guess what, in some ways we already have! Mark Zuckerberg, a millennial and Facebook founder has forever transformed the way we communicate with our friends, family, and the world. With nearly 800 million users the site has transcended every traditional media growth rate and is now the defacto standard communication platform for individuals and businesses alike. Other highly commercialized platforms such as Pinterest, FourSquare, and WordPress were all products of the Millennial.

That is why the myths must be accompanied by some truths. And not truths that come from sample research or from opinionated baby boomers, but from the heart and mind of a millennial that is passionate about his generation and wants the world sees us for what we are. Here are my truths in relation to the previously identified myths.

Myth 1: Entitled
Truth: We need to not confuse entitled with having big dreams. Millennials are very entrepreneurial and we desire to make a substantial contribution right away. Perhaps we are impatient, but we want to see more rapid change. Remember, we have lived through a technological revolution like none ever before. Fast is the only speed we know.

Myth 2: Self Centered
Truth: While perhaps progressive at times in our thinking we see selflessness as a more global effort whereas generations before tended to pursuit this within family and community. While we may not have the same sense of family values and perhaps that is unfortunate. We have brought social good and consciousness to a whole new level (Post Tsunami Japan). Think about the revolutions that we have helped facilitate around the world (Egypt) by utilizing our modern means of communication. Millennial adoption of technology is making the world that much smaller!

Myth 3: Lazy
Truth: We aren’t lazy (entirely), we think that there are different and more transformative ways to deal with problems. However since most of us work for and with older generations they still want to do things the old/hard way. I’ve heard all generations discuss productivity over perceived effort so why should it be any different here?

Myth 4: We’re Fragile
Truth: I think the reality is we may be more expressive of our feelings. In the past being open and sensitive was taboo, now it isn’t. From our early upbringing we were pushed more to be expressive and to be sensitive beings. While this can present challenges in the workplace, it also enhances opportunities for real communication. While I am an advocate for sometimes limiting your personal feelings in the workplace, we weren’t born to be miserable either.

Myth 5: We’re Never Leaving Home
Truth: Many millennials happened to come out of school during one of the worst economic times since the great depression (this may have been worse). With a tough job market and frozen credit I’m not sure that the data related to millennials moving back home is as related to their desire to be there as it is their need for a roof. I have many millennial friends and not one of them whether still at home or not have the desire to be there.

So there you have it. Perhaps the truth is in the eyes of the millennial, and not in the eyes of the data sample. And while this is a completely non scientific first person perspective, its merit is rooted in my life experience as a millennial. This means new ideas, a global perspective, a different type of work ethic, an open demeanor, and of course a desire to create our own success (And Move Out)!

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19 comments
keh9t9
keh9t9

Myth 3 and Myth 5 are really interesting to me because according to recent articles by the Huffington Post and several other news sources, we're the most stressed out generation. This article from The YAYA Connection about sums it up:

http://yayaconnection.com/2013/is-stress-the-new-norm/

The article you've written is refreshing as I tend to react defensively when an entire generation is stereotyped.

Kneale Mann
Kneale Mann like.author.displayName 1 Like

@danielnewmanUV - 

I love your passion as always, my friend. The flag for me always goes up when someone complains that an entity speaks on behalf of a generation to be replaced by their own commentary about said generation. 

 

When I think of the history of humans, our blip in time represents a mere blink of an eye next to a couple of hundred thousand years of evolution. So it is arrogant for us - no matter our age - to think what we are more evolved than previous generations. 

 

As you make assumptions for what every human within a certain demographic is thinking, writing or feeling, be careful you aren't speaking too broadly about your own age group as well.  You may think millennials are this or generation x is that, but it is simply opinion mixed with assumption.

 

Zuckerberg is running the largest social network on earth while my buddy's 25 year old son won't get out of bed before noon. There is a kid who grew up half an hour from my office who has raised money for clean water in Africa - look up Ryan's Well.  He started his foundation when he was six.

 

We can't assume all boomers think all millennials are a certain way. There are exceptions to every rule and age is certainly not the only indicator. 

danielnewmanUV
danielnewmanUV moderator

 @Kneale Mann Kneale - I always love a good beating from a smart guy ;) - in serious, I never write or debate with the opinion that one size fits all.  Below in my response to Whitney I actually mention the generation bell curve.  Within all groups actually you will have extremes that will over or under represent a stereotype.  

I just wanted to mention from at least one perspective that what another generation may consider a flaw may be just what we need to generate progress.  It is never one size fits all...Never!

Let's keep the debate going....

Whitney Punchak
Whitney Punchak like.author.displayName 1 Like

This post is exactly why I love reading your blog!

 

I always enjoy the opportunity to work with people from different generations, but I'm not always sure if others feel the same way. I like your point about entitlement being mistake for big dreams. I would agree that older colleagues can be a little confused or taken back by our enthusiasm and wanting to see change quickly.  

 

As someone right smack in the middle of Generation Y, thanks for writing this! It's a good reminder of our qualities. 

 

danielnewmanUV
danielnewmanUV moderator like.author.displayName 1 Like

 @Whitney Punchak Whitney - I'm glad you enjoyed the article.  I think like all generations you have a bell curve.  The most intensely motivated to succeed as well as the most willing to fit the negative stereotype.  Bottom line is nothing truly represents everyone.  

Hope to see you around more often!

 

alankay1
alankay1 like.author.displayName 1 Like

Dan, you are absolutely right in asserting that millennials actually do a lot really well. Sadly, inter-generational misunderstanding is an ancient human trait. You'd have thought that we might have learned something by now. 

My impression is that it's driven by economic circumstances. The current boomers diss the millennials because they are fearful of a lot of things, not just millennials. Similarly, we hear both boomers and millennials complaining about the quality of high-school grads entering higher education: '...they don't know how to write a sentence..', etc. I first heard that 40+ years ago when I left school.

I'd take the complainers seriously, not literally. I'd also ask them the following question: 'What is it that (name of generation) actually do well? What else? What else?' Don’t let up until they are exhausted. Then, add: ‘Yes, and I see them also being excellent at…’  

danielnewmanUV
danielnewmanUV moderator

 @alankay1 Alan - I really like your last thought here about "Serious vs. Literal"  I think we need to realize we all "Add Value" and we need to discover where that is and how to use it to create better results rather than more disillusion?

GenYHistory
GenYHistory

We are working towards the same goal. I have a blog page I haven't finished (so I haven't published) that will be dealing with a lot of the same issues. I love your passion! My course of action is to fight fire with fire as all of these "experts" dig only skin deep to find data that proves their point (self-fulfilling prophecy), rather than find answers. They are quick to generalize instead of analyze. It's sad. I'm with you buddy, keep up the good work!

Linnaeus
Linnaeus

A good and very fair commentary. I have to say that as one a bit older (I'd be put in the Gen X category), a lot of these things were also said about my generation.

prosperitygal
prosperitygal

Dan how do you propose we find ways of collaborating so that all positive traits for each era is honored.

danielnewmanUV
danielnewmanUV moderator

 @prosperitygal Michele - I can't speak for everyone on this.  For me it is about understanding first.  Good old "Empathy"

If we start by genuinely understanding others then we have a higher likelihood of success.

Also - we sometimes need to throw stereotypes aside until we actually get to better know an individual. 

abby_butts
abby_butts

Great post!  As a millenial working primarily with Gen Y and Baby Boomers, I do get frustrated with the generalizations.  I'm lucky that most people realize I don't fit into those stereotype but that doesn't do much to break the stereotypes.

 

"Remember, we have lived through a technological revolution like none ever before. Fast is the only speed we know."  This is 100% accurate and it explains my frustration during times when things are moving slower than I would like or expect that they should.  Every generation is different from the ones before it.  I wonder what we will be saying about generations after us.

danielnewmanUV
danielnewmanUV moderator

 @abby_butts Thanks Abby - I have also fought the stereotypes - being one of the older millennials I always prided myself on work ethic. However I have long been convinced that change is key to continuous improvement.  Very much a millennial ideal. 

CraigJuengling
CraigJuengling like.author.displayName 1 Like

Daniel, from this boomer's perspective, you are "spot on". I find too many coaches and instructors do a hatchet job to point out the flaws and faults, but little to address the values and dreams of your generation. Well done with this post!

 

May I use this post as a guest post on my website? TheE2Coach.com

sherrylowry
sherrylowry

Daniel, I am very interested in your ideas and want to learn much more. My own "research" started early 2008 because most of the Millennials I knew did not fit the descriptors of the (ultimately) 28 books i then eventually read, nor the "pop" research. We'll talk more - but to cut to the point, I believe at least 20% of EVERY generation, of all cultures across all times in history, fit a very different profile. I'm projecting you are within that 20%. What's really USEFUL in my experience from here on forward, is talking much more about what strengths, values, and aspirations EVERY generation shares or at least carries. We've our culture in such a seriously deep ditch now, it will take ALL of us to get it back on a real road of positive change. Thanks for being an active part of that very act and helping lead along the journey.

danielnewmanUV
danielnewmanUV moderator

 @sherrylowry Thanks for stopping by and giving it a gander.  I look forward to further connecting and learning more from your studies and insight!  Welcome to the community :)

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