We Don’t Need No Stinkin’ Negativity

We Don’t Need No Stinkin’ Negativity

Sep 20, 2011

Some posts require lengthy explanation, however this one does not…

In the world we live in, we can get all of the bad news we could ever hope for by turning on the news, reading the paper, or surfing the news outlets on the web. Furthermore, we only have a limited amount of time to accomplish what we need to get done and that leaves only so much time to spend on Social Media. This limited time can become further convoluted between Twitter, Facebook, LinkedIn, Google+, Klout, Empire Avenue, and a plethora of other options to devote our time and resources. To be successful we MUST commit to our goals.

One of these goals should be to avoid the rash of negativity that exists in social spaces. There are people in Social channels that are strictly there to stir the pot. They aren’t there to add to the conversation or bring new ideas, or even thoughtful criticism (I’m good with healthy debate so please know I am not suggesting that people don’t engage in such) . Nope, they are strictly there to ruin your experience and the experience of others.

To this I say…

Ban, Block, Ignore, Reject, don’t waste even a second paying attention to these people. In a space with hundreds if not thousands of people in which you can create a meaningful connection that will enrich your life in some way, why in the world would you waste your time on negativity.

As an example, I recently had a good friend who has been working on an amazing Social Good cause. One that has the potential to change people in a powerful way and if nothing else it is a positive message that creates good will if even for just a moment. Many people have rallied around this message, they have found it a valuable and easily shared cause that will make a difference. However, like so many others whom bring a positive light to the social stream, there are the naysayers. The ones who feel obligated to poke holes in the cause in a way that seems nothing more than self serving. (I opt not to name names as I don’t see it accomplishing anything meaningful)

Bottom line, this is your experience. Just like “Out there” in the world, you get to choose who you do and don’t want to engage and interact with.

My Recommendation; Choose wisely and leave the bullies and Headcases to divide and conquer one another on their own time. After all, if we don’t respond to them, they will have to respond to each other.

38 comments
janwong
janwong

LOL love your recommendation. Funny yet all true at the same time. While it is impossible for us to stay positive all the time, we can always stay away from negative people all the time. Hence the 'block' or 'spam' function is created - that's where you put them ;)

AdamRenfro
AdamRenfro

Agreed! It seems people can be fairly easily divided into an "I can" or an "I can't" sort of person. The net is the most suitable outlet ever to bring "I can" people together. This is were new ideas are created and shared EVERY SECOND. So . .. I'm always puzzled by the "I can't" people who lurk on the net and want to maintain the status quo, bashing any new idea or change. Even through they thoroughly enjoy the net, if left of to them, it would have never been invented.

jureklepic
jureklepic

I read once quote from N. Stephenson:

“Arguing with anonymous strangers on the Internet is a sucker's game because they almost always turn out to be—or to be indistinguishable from—self-righteous sixteen-year-olds possessing infinite amounts of free time.” Do i need to say more who trolls are :)

Natasha_D_G
Natasha_D_G

Great sentiment #DNUV. My Mom always said "ignorance is better handled when ignored" I think she was on to something.

AllisonFarberCheston
AllisonFarberCheston

This is a great reminder to do your best to keep it positive on all fronts. I'm not suggesting a pollyanna approach, but a lot of people think they project a smarter image if they are skeptical. And the anonymity allowed by social media can bring out the worst in people. Thanks, Daniel! And thanks as always, @YouTernMark

YouTernMark
YouTernMark

Well done, @danielnewmanUV. Healthy "debate" (the label most used by those you speak of here) is good for the soul and often enables us us to rethink the logic behind our positions. However, most in the Headcase category forget that "debate" requires both sides to participate -- and that calling someone out in public is not debate; it is a choice to be deliberately confrontational.

sbeach
sbeach

Absolutely! Let's use our energies to constructively find solutions. Dignifying a response that does nothing to advance the cause is perhaps a waste of time and causes us to remain in a cycle with little or no progress. @

eduk8andlead
eduk8andlead

Dan, you have nailed it here! I began to block some of the twitter feeds and FB feeds just to decrease the "woe is me" or "the system is broken" mentality. The whole "you matter" movement is around optimistic thoughts that all people have good qualities that can be used to make a difference. We need to constantly and consistently approach challenges with a "solutions-based" mindset. Social media is designed to be a social outlet (good, bad or indifferent) just like TV and newspapers were/are. So our goal needs to be to turn off/discontinue the streams that feed negativity into our circles. Many students today have heard the message "you can't because . . " so many have given up because of the negativity and they in turn become negative. Not to be cliche or corny, but Journey's lyrics are appropriate here - "Don't stop believing". Believing that we will make a difference, believing that students can make a difference, believing that despite the negativity we can transform education will trump all of the naysayers!!! Great job Dan!

AngelaMaiers
AngelaMaiers

Great post Dan!

I think there is a distinct difference (that is very transparent over time) with individuals who are truly trying to deepen the discourse by providing alternative views and those that simply want to be a voice of unreason. It has been my experience that most in the social media space are there to learn, grow, and deepen their understanding. They come to chats, read blogs, engage in Twitter to be challenge, pushed, and inspired. There is no time to waste on individuals who thrive on negativity and insult. Or as you have so eloquently said, we just don't need any more stinkin' negativity!

Love this post!

shawmu
shawmu

@danielnewmanUV@danielnewmanuv Daniel,

Indeed, no need to spend time with a small number of "negative ninjas" who like to karate-chop any idea. Shut it down by ignoring or diverting their attempts. There is an art to the latter.

dabarlow
dabarlow

Daniel, great post...hanging with negative folks drains positive energy as you eloquently say. Love Sam's comment to not feed the trolls. Thanks! #youmatter

profkrg
profkrg

Daniel, you are the perfect person to write this post. I often find that logging on and chatting with you, @PegFitzpatrick, @AngelaMaiers, @chattyprof, @shawmu, @jkcallas, @YouTurnMark, @margieclayman, @mackcollier, and so many other great people I've met on Twitter actually makes my bad days better. I honestly love the way we interact and build one another up through social media (even when we're teasing each other relentlessly). I agree with @samfiorella (which I usually do because I just love his snarky style), "Don't Feed the Trolls."

Some people are just so unhappy that they don't have anything better to do but drag others down. I say use the manners your Momma taught you. Do you really want to be known in such a public space as the asshole? I don't!

On that note, have a great day!

BruceSallan
BruceSallan

I think you're full of ca-ca Daniel...LOL. Hurray for these sentiments! Have a great day, my friend. Hug your kids and wife. Celebrate the goodness around you!

danielnewmanUV
danielnewmanUV moderator

@jureklepic LOL - you are funny my friend. Thanks for stopping by. We will keep on keeping on :)

danielnewmanUV
danielnewmanUV moderator

@YouTernMark I agree - I also like the point about calling out in public - is there a way it can be done and not seem confrontational in nature? Not sure, but I'd like to see it done better. Thanks for stopping by!

danielnewmanUV
danielnewmanUV moderator

@eduk8andlead What a wonderful and appropriate response. You hit my thinking on the head. I just don't see the point of the negativity anymore.

Bring ideas, innovation, constructive criticism even - but don't just be sour for the sake of doing.

And if that is your thing - take it elsewhere.

Thanks for the comment and for your support! #YouMatter :)

danielnewmanUV
danielnewmanUV moderator

@AngelaMaiers Thank you so much for coming by and commenting - I think negativity here is such a waste. Enough going on in our lives...focus on what is positive!!!

danielnewmanUV
danielnewmanUV moderator

@danperezfilms Hey @danperezfilms (I’m good with healthy debate so please know I am not suggesting that people don’t engage in such) <-This is you most of the time so you are good.

danielnewmanUV
danielnewmanUV moderator

@shawmu appreciate your comment and I agree about the diversion - when done well it can almost be more fun than ignoring.

shawmu
shawmu

@profkrg You, too, light up the day with your kindness and support.

danielnewmanUV
danielnewmanUV moderator

@profkrg@samfiorella Kenna, Thank you so much for the support. Not sure I'm ever "Perfect" but this is something that I feel really strongly about. I agree with you about not wanting to be known for being an ass - but some people do. You Rock!

prosperitygal
prosperitygal

Sometimes just "being" is enough to feed some trolls as they want what you have or created ;) ( been there got the t-shirt) @samfiorella

danperezfilms
danperezfilms

@danielnewmanUV I just think there are people who are quick to call someone a "troll" who disagrees with their views or the views of their "idols". I've been called that several times and I never comment with any other intention than to question the logic of a post. The social media community are the most sensitive.

Social media "enthusiasts" remind me sometimes of the "Jesus People" of the 1970's. Very passionate about social media but not very smart. Any questioning of the existence of their "God" and they freak. Moreover, a lot of these social media "marketers" take themselves so dang serious (because all they do is preach to the choir with every post) that an opposing viewpoint is quickly frowned upon and the commenter called a troll.

Sure there are people out there who live to make others miserable but if you don't like the way of the world you can (A) hop off, (B) learn how to defend yourself, or (C) just deal with it.

PS - Yes, I'm right 98.7% of the time so let them call me a troll.

PS2 - Yes, I love God and I love Jesus.

PS3 - Yes, I know that I'm your hero/idol/mentor

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